nothing can break the bond between a friend who loves spoilers and a friend who just watched an amazing show and needs to tell someone the entire plot from start to finish
this feels so fucking silly to say out loud but I genuinely think we're kind of negatively skewing body expectations for people w/ penises to the kind of ludicrous degree that its inevitably gonna cause mental health issues and complexes and dysphoria, particularly for trans/nb people. Big dicks are dope as hell but calling normal cocks small for being under like 6" and making fun of someone for that is fucking stupid considering the global average is between 4.5"-5.1". Youre gonna make some nice lovely young fag who hasnt had an in-person penis experience yet spiral and become obsessed and buy alt-med dick pills or dick extension surgery or some shit. I dont know how many of the people I've had a hook up with/dated that apologized repeatedly during sex because they were worried they weren't "normal" down there or bottomed out of shame. We're turning so many potential tops into bottoms with this madness
i hate that i have to keep reminding people of this but if you are sending money to a sex worker for any service or content please do not put ANYTHING in the memo field unless told otherwise by the provider
don't try to be cute or funny with it, the best way to make them smile is by following directions 💕
Paypal, for one, will delete someone's account and steal their money if they catch a whiff of your transaction being in any way nsfw, DO NOT SAY SHIT, just silently send the money as you are told if you need to speak something regarding it do so via DIRECT MESSAGES and FAR from the program of the transaction
i would go as far as to say never to add notes to paypal transactions. i recently saw someone have their account frozen from buying anime vhs tapes, because the anime in question happened to have the word "persia" in the title.
you never know what kind of weird thing is going to trigger their algorithm, so just don't
It's been over a decade, but I'm still saddled with a lifetime ban from paypal and by extension venmo because one of my friends who was paying me back for buying him and his gf at the time dinner thought it would be funny to include "for sensual massage" in the notes section and not only did they not let the transaction go through they took back all the money anybody had EVER sent me via paypal, which thankfully wasn't much.
honestly if you only have compassion for oppressed people's suffering because they are in a sufficiently oppressed class, thats a problem. anti-oppressive activism is useless if it ends up as "these people deserve compassion because they are in the Right Group" instead of "everyone deserves compassion and injustice and cruelty is never okay for anyone". anything else is doomed to repeat the very systems it wants to destroy.
Oh no, random strangers find me unfuckable and unappealing based on my hobbies and interests!! whatever shall I do??? 😂😂😂















